I know this isn't the topic this blog is meant for but
I have a strong need to write it somewhere. Because I have mostly teenage friends,
their current life goal s to get a boyfriend/girlfriend and when they don't
seem to get one, they start asking me why. I usually try to be nice and don't
point out directly the things which I consider to be the reasons. So I'll write
them here and hope that one day they 1) read it or 2) grow up.
I don't want to be rude, I really can't see the cause
of that they cannot get a partner. My friends are just awesome and I wouldn't
love them so much if I didn't like their personality, sense of humour, and so
on. But I have a theory– people are used to communicating via the Internet
therefore they have problems with talking to others face to face because it's
easier to type something on the keyboard than saying it aloud. It's also less
difficult to avoid getting into an awkward situation. People, just wake up, I
don't want this civilisation to live behind the screens... Or, it's better to
say "not to live."
The list doesn't need any "prologue", so
let's look at it:
- Dry lips – I don't understand, why it's
such a problem to drink more water of carry a lip balm. I know there are
certain health conditions (I've got them too) which make your body excrete
more H2O than necessary and a good and simple solution for
this is eating more salt.
- Bad breath - This can have many, many, many causes and few
of them can't even be your fault. Most people don't even know they have
it. The most common cause is bad nutrition or diet and bacteria in the
mouth that can precede inflammation. So fix the food you eat, brush your
teeth more than twice a day, use more tools for the dental hygiene, and
make friends with menthol chewing gums. Don't worry, if you keep these
rules, nobody will ever notice.
- Awful smell - This refers to a body odour. Deodorants are not
a shower in a can! If you don't feel like using perfumes or eaux de
toilette you can stick with a scented deodorant, antiperspirant, or body
lotion. If you smoke, wash your cloths more regularly and wash your hair
every day because most people just don't like that smell. (My trick is to
make a ponytail not to get that smell on my hair. But I don't smoke
anymore.)
- Hair hiding your face - I had always thought that
hiding the parts of face I don't like on me will make me look better.
Wrong! I had acne so I used to put on tons of make-up and throw my hair
into my face. No wonder I looked terrible. A fringe is alright but it
mustn't cover a half of your face. Just make a ponytail, put on some
mascara (not too much, you have to be able to open your eyes) and smile.
This point wasn't meant for girls only.
- Wrong body posture/ walking - I'm not saying that you
should walk like a model but standing and moving with your spine straight
can emphasize your ribcage... If you know what I mean. Women who are large
on top (or tall) tend to slouch which doesn't look good neither. As
regards men, they are usually tall and almost every boy I know slouches or
walks improperly. And I'm not being a pedant, in fact, it's unhealthy.
- Bad skin - Now I don't mean acne. It is normal and most
people have had/had/will have it. Dry, oily or not healthy looking skin is
what I have on my mind. If you have problems with it, don't think it's a
banality. If you don't want to do it for others, do it for yourself and
buy some cosmetics to help you to solve the problem. I've had a dry skin
and since I use cannabis balm it's getting better and better.
- Clothes you wear - If you think that your inner beauty will amaze
the man of your dreams, then I have these two words for you: Hell no. The
first impression makes the way you look, not your personality. I've
noticed that when I wear high heels, tights, skirts or skinny jeans (don't
even have to wear make-up, which I rarely do, actually), guys look at me
like I was their prey. But not all of them. If I walk out looking like a
woman (not that I wasn't one, but baggy clothes and Converse shoes don't
make anyone look feminine) men don't look at my body but right into my
eyes (and my butt right away I pass them). Same for men.
- The way you speak - Just a quick note– vulgar speech is something you should do when you're with friends. Women, don't speak in a high-pitched voice.
- You act like or you are a child - I have mentioned the clothes
and the first impression. If the one you are trying to charm gets the
feeling that you have an immature behaviour, you won't fix it anyhow.
Additionally, if you are too young to have a relationship, let it go and
enjoy your childhood.
- Nails and hands - This is something you should pay attention to.
Girls, nails don't have to be polished but they shouldn't be too long or
half of them broken. If you play the violin (like I do), good for you, you
don't have to care about them too much. Boys, I know you may be a good
guitar player but you nails don't have to be that long. And by hands I
mean dry hands, especially in the winter. I know that feeling of frozen,
red hands, it's horrible. You (and I) should get some hand cream based on
oils.
These were my 10 possible reasons, if you have some tips too or have
something you really hate about your partner/friend, feel free to leave a
comment. :)
love
& peace,
Ciray
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